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To the girl whose heart has just been broken again

(Inspired by a Thought Catalog article)

Once again, it is not your fault that he left you without even saying goodbye. Some people just aren’t meant to stay in your life. They are the temporary ones that come and go. Cliché? I know. But it’s true.

Once again, don’t rack your brain trying to figure out why he left. You can think of a host of reasons, but one thing is for sure, if he was courageous enough, he would have told you why. Honestly and completely.

Once again, you may feel like you need some closure. But sometimes, the only closure you’ll ever need is the understanding that you deserve better. Yes, you deserve better. So let it go. Let him go. Let him be. You are probably better off without him. If not now, someday you will realize that your life is better without him.

Once again, remind yourself that you have been through this before. And you will get through this. Remember those red flags you chose not to mind before? Feed on them. Remind yourself that you are not going to have the bear the problems he bring. The universe worked it out for you. The universe is looking out for you and chose to stray you far from him.

Once again, you are not for him and he is not for you.

Once again, it is not your fault that he feels you are not enough or you are too much for him. You may be intense and passionate or mild and sweet. Maybe he just could not match your intensity or handle your sweetness.

And once again, remember that you are good enough – always have been and always will be – to the one who loves you and accepts you for who you are. He will see this, and he will live for it. He will not take you for granted.

Once again, there will always be people who find you inadequate and cannot love you as much as you love them, but the world is also filled with people who can and will love you fiercely. You are just not for everyone and that is okay.

Once again, respect yourself enough to walk away from someone who doesn’t see your worth. Understand that it will hurt so much; losing the one you love is heartbreaking. You will find it difficult to carry your heart again with a huge hole in it. But honey, fill that space with love. Be gentle with it, especially now that it is broken.

Honey, grow through what you are going through.

You may not know where to start but you can start whenever you are. When you are ready, just take that step however feeble that is.

Right now, it may feel like you are not going to be okay, but you will be. Remember, you’ve been through this already. You are a warrior with scars to boast, not to hide. You will become stronger as the days pass by.

And again, tell yourself that everything will work out, that things will get better and affirm yourself that what is coming is better than what you have lost.

Honey, move on. Your heart will not stay broken. Your heart will be whole again someday.

Believe that there is a happy ending to all of this. Someday, someone will come along and sweep you off your feet and love you, and appreciate you for your beauty, scars, and bruises.

Or maybe, just maybe, your happy ending doesn’t include a guy. It could be just you picking up the broken pieces of your heart, putting them back together and starting over. Maybe your happy ending could just be you, moving on, and finally feeling genuine happiness.

And honey, believe that the best is yet to come.


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